The essence of masculinity in an emotional world
Manel Vidal, a man who recognizes himself as ‘jam’, invites us to a deep reflection on the male condition. In his book ‘The Pass to Space’ (Destino, 2025), he addresses topics such as relationships and emotions through the football filter, an area that serves as much as a stage as a pretext to explore his own vulnerability.
Football as a metaphor for life
Football, traditionally considered a trivial issue, is revealed as a vehicle to discuss deeper issues. Vidal challenges the idea that football is just a pastime, arguing that it is a reflection of our emotional experiences. Through his narrative, he reminds us that the emotions that come to the surface are a consequence of a world that often does not allow men to express themselves freely.
The Emotional Indigence: An Invisible Wall
His analysis of what he calls ’emotional indigence’ is poignant. Manel acknowledges that many men grow with an invisible load that prevents them from connecting with their emotions. This social wall, consisting of stereotypes and expectations, creates a disconnect between what we feel and what we can express. Thus, the awareness of this shortcoming becomes a painful first step towards healing.
Conversations between men: a space of vulnerability
In meeting moments with friends, Manel shares the irony of calling his ‘care’ meetings. These conversations, although they lack therapeutic depth, offer a space to get rid of emotional weight. Through these interactions, men can be reflected in the struggles of others, but at the same time, they recognize that this need to share is an exception in a world that normalizes silence.
Self -analysis and relationship with father
His relationship with his father is an example of how vulnerability can be addressed in a way that does not seek dramatic exaltation, but rather a silent and imperfect reconciliation. Manel understands that his father, through his actions, may have said ‘I love’ in ways that were not always verbal, reflecting the complexity of family relationships.
A new vision of masculinity
In ‘The Pass in Space’, Manel Vidal challenges the traditional notions of masculinity, presenting a more authentic and accessible version. Instead of falling into the melodrama, it offers a realistic and presenting view of masculinity that does not require great exploits to be valid. It is a reminder that normality, far from being mediocrity, can be a source of strength and authenticity.
The importance of reflection and personal growth
Finally, Manel invites us to reflect on the importance of introspection and personal growth in a world that often pushes us to ignore our emotions. At a time when the deconstruction of masculinity becomes a hot topic, it is essential to find a balance between pain and normality, between vulnerability and strength. His work becomes a lighthouse that guides us through this emotional labyrinth.
